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Daughters Recollect Their Mothers

Inspired by the work of artist and activist Carrie Mae Weems on the culture of family, I set out to interview friends, now, mostly mothers emeriti, to determine what they recollected of their own mothers: what had their mothers said to them that they remember now, so many years later. 

The good mother doesn’t much appear in these remembered voices – perhaps because we remember her for her deeds, not her words.  If I had interviewed women from another culture, you can guess the responses would have been different.  At any rate, these responses, each familiar to me, represent the admonitions we think will make our daughters survivors.  Fearless, courageous, caring daughters are something else again!  They seem to sprout on their own.